What was the instance where your significant other finally seemed to share your enthusiasm with home automation? I have two but in my defense they both involve Google Home.
Being able to turn on/off Sonos with Google Home. Yes, you can’t change volumes or change sources but simply being able to say “OK Google, turn on Kitchen Sonos” is probably my wife’s favorite feature.
When installing some switches, I had one left over. My wife suggested a place I didn’t even think of, for the pendant lights over the peninsula. This is often a work space for the kitchen and since the other side has stools the switch is located on the stool side. Meaning if you want to turn it on, you have to reach over the work area with contaminated (meat, veggie, ect.) hands to turn on the switch. Now we can say, “OK Google, turn on island (yes, my wife calls it an island…) lights” and not miss a beat while chopping.
She always accepted HA especially with Christmas lights or turning our foyer and door lights on at sunset but these two instances were where you could see the gleam in her eye.