Ecobee works great with both the basic “official” integration, and a more fully-featured community integration. Official Ecobee 3 Integration
There aren’t any deadbolts out there that I am aware of that report state without control. However, this would be pretty easy to DIY, especially in new construction. Ask your electrician to wire a momentary button into the deadbolt housing such that when the plunger is extended, it depresses the button. Then run low-voltage wires from the switch to a MIMOLite (or similar).
I believe Pella makes a system of doors that will report lock status, but those doors only work with the Pella hub.