In the last few years, it’s actually become the other way around, as companies like Apple established the idea that consumers could delay or even refuse updates, although on their side the companies could also stop supporting older versions.
In low cost home automation in particular, many top companies allow you to choose when update will occur. That includes Apple’s HomeKit, but also wink, homeseer, Phillips hue, etc. “An update is available” is pretty standard now.
There are some exceptions (nest is an obvious one), but many home automation systems do give consumers the option whether to sign up for automatic updates or not. Choice is good.