Trying to flash the controller but unable to locate the ground TX and RX
Look up the pin out for the ESP8266, it will give you what you need. Flashing an ESP can be tricky though so look for a guide for your board.
And here’s the manual:
Now that I’ve figure out where they are located any suggestions on how to connect it to a ftd adapter
Depends on the adapter… but typically you would need wire and solder I’m afraid… don’t forget to use a heat sync to avoid damage to the chip.